For many people, the idea of adding bondage to your sexual play sounds exciting – and it is! But for those who have never experimented with bondage, it may be intimidating, and you may not know where to start. Here are a few bondage basics tips to start playing with your partner.

1. Start easy
The easiest way to start playing with bondage in the bedroom is to use things that you already have around the house. Tie your partner’s hands together with a necktie or a scarf leaving their legs free, and blindfold them with a sleep mask. Easing your way into bondage with simple moves like these will at the very least get your feet wet, and get you ready for something more.

2. Add restraints
So now that you’ve experimented with some simple hand-tying, it’s time to move on to something more. For full bondage play, the feet need to be restrained by something as well. One of the best positions for bondage is having your submissive be tied up spread-eagle (arms and legs spread – like a star shape), and restrained by cuffs at the wrists and ankles. Simple restraints are sold in sex shops or online that easily fit onto your bed or over your door – no hardware installation necessary, giving you an instant restraint system.

3. Use toys
Part of the fun of bondage is that one person has complete control over the other. Use toys such a vibrators or ticklers to really tease your partner who is tied up. Because they can’t move, you can tickle or tease them to an intensity they haven’t felt before, and it can become quite erotic. For many, a bit of sadomasochism (mild pain for pleasure) is enjoyed during bondage play, so use a whip made of very soft material, or try using nipple clamps for extra pleasure.

4. Up the intensity
When you’re pretty comfortable with the restraints, you may want to try something even more intense. Check out this link for more information on beginner rope bondage: http://bondage-tutorials.blogspot.com/2010/10/14-knots-french-bowline.html

BEFORE YOU BEGIN USING BONDAGE: Some things to think about before you start experimenting with bondage play

Talk about limits. Talk to your partner about where your limits are, and be sure you fully understand theirs. Each time you add something new to the bondage play, you will have to speak to your partner again about how far you are willing to go and what you absolutely don’t want to happen.

Set a safe word. If you are incorporating any type of S&M (whips, spanking, etc.) you need to find a word that the person can use if the pain becomes too much for them. When someone is getting spanked, it is normal to say “stop”, but they don’t mean it. Choose a word like “pickles” so you know your partner is serious if they say it.

Communicate. When you’re just beginning, continuously check that your partner is okay, to ensure you’re not crossing any limits and they are enjoying themselves.

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